The Lazy Lama looks at
Buddhist Meditation
“We’re not looking for good experiences in meditation, wonderful or strange experiences. Maybe we’ll have them too; but it doesn’t matter. What we’re looking for is being able to relax, being able to let the thoughts and emotions come and then let them go without their taking over.
The real meditation is to be able to learn that whatever experience arises, it doesn’t matter; it’s just an experience, and you can relax in that. If it’s a good experience, you learn to relax in that. If it’s a bad experience, you learn to relax in that. If it’s neither a good nor a bad experience, you learn to relax on that. If you learn how to do that in all these three different cases then you have learned how to meditate.”